my husband ruins every vacation

We went back and he's waiting in the suburban making us load our own luggage. and his foreman was to scared of my husband to write him up. and so on. When I ask him why he's reacting that way, he explodes that he JUST TOLD ME that he feels like he's going to puke (but of course still "FINE." Give him a vacation. He was working the inventory on his job at 3 that afternoon when skilled trades could not get him to come to the window to issue a part that was not available in the virtual crib a tradesman climbed trough the issuing window. You deserve a break. This stuff about having his way and the people it hurt was getting to be insanity on his part. Just say what's going on. I will NEVER receive an apology..I dont expect it.not from a narcissist.I did write her a letter (not mean but honest..)telling her that I will have to keep my distance from her for a while . These people are usually well-organized and methodical, so they will be happy if you, for example, leave it to them to plan a tour or adventure while you are on vacation. I was in orange and white strips in the county jail until labor day. Sorry for going on so long but I am so upset at yet more ruined holidays that I stopped eating, again! Narcissists are good at playing innocent when they want to. You didn't do anything wrong, we just have asshole lurkers/downvote bots stalking our /new queue. WebNow $93 (Was $111) on Tripadvisor: Hampton Inn & Suites Hartford/East Hartford, East Hartford. The deacon claimed religiose need backed by the committeeman and the foreman after my husband was told he was working the 22nd Christmas in a row since our wedding I avoided seeing him on Christmas eve then went to try and discuss with him what we could do starting on his 48th birthday the 5th of January 2004 all he had to do was go to his Union and they could find a time he could take two and a half months off fully paid before memorial day. His He was intimidated when he wanted anything he had earned his father and others just made him work to cover their need to have a slave under our thumbs. Anytime we're doing something "fun" he has to suck the life right out of it. Holy shit what a whiner. By 2009 I was begging still that he could just try the times that were chosen for him by other people he had 34 years in seniority and there were many who had been badly hurt just trying to get him to try other ways. It's just for you. He was using the work records, the notes of the priest in charge of the rehab, Police records of what it took to get my husband to work as he was told. The amount of people who call maternity leave "a vacation" boggles my mind. armed with a cease and desist order against the county from a federal court he planned against the wish's of the good old boys in the county to leave for the millennial celebrations in Germany after 19 years I had hoped for forgiving and understanding but when two deputies showed up to hold him without charges until Christmas morning and get him to work till then out of the jail. But you also have to be prepared for various unpleasant surprises whenever your husband feels that he is not in the limelight. We got back and went straight to his fathers safe deposit and he dragged his father out kicking him and up the sidewalk telling us he would have his property returned he slammed his father on the managers desk handing him the box key telling him he just wanted his passport returned. But somehow I manage not to be such a whiny bitch about it. He did not believe a word I said about never again would I stop him from having the time off he wanted. The husbands story went viral on the AITA subreddit, getting over 15.8k upvotes. I was concerned when you said your husband has a temper problem. I refill the water bottle from a water fountain after husband drinks all of it. No judgments, no nastiness. I stepped out of my bedroom right into my husbands chest In a brand new outfit I was going to wear to the dinner that evening, I knew i had to do something to go with the group and started telling my husband I had promised his father to go that evening. Then you will know how to best change the usual scenario of your vacation. Husband sighs and insists we HAVE TO check out RIGHT THEN, and when I suggest I call to the front desk and request a late check-out, he says we might as well just go home and cut our trip short by an entire day. My husband just told me he hates me, he doesn't care about my feelings because My mother does not want me happy and tries to ruin my relationships, Husband says he cannot have a happy life with me. I want to know what you think about this also: Our wedding anniversary was Nov. 4. To them, this guarantees a spot in your brain space that is at least equally as important as your anticipation of that holiday event. I swear they do everything you just described. Holiday lights are lovely and symbols of hope. This can help you have peace in your life and survive this holiday season. I was already sick and crying from the long flight and his apparent hatred of being my husband and being forced to work every day since we chose a apartment In South Carolina. Confessional #98132334. His mother had cut him a check for the cost of the none refundable flight. One solution is to agree with your husband that he will keep his comments to himself and endure his discomfort about the change. I wanted calm, peace and to feel the joy of holidays and birthdays. Share kindness, support and compassion, not criticism. I try to see the good. Pure enjoyment and entertainment are a waste of time for them. If he won't work on or get help with his temper and start respecting your feelings, you really should think about getting out of this relationship. I have had to distance myself from her before because of her behavior. After awhile he apologizes for being an asshole. The people around me weren't like I was. At that point I'm ready to just go back to the hotel and go back to sleep, but he whines and begs and guilts me into continuing to go with them. And if you can, set aside the Man I am exhausted just reading about it! I half-heartedly commiserate. Your husband ruining your every vacation together can mean a lot of things. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. I have no respect for men like him that treat their wives like this. It can feel as if no matter how your relationship has been going with them before the holidays even start, they can find a way to use this time of year to cause additional pain. With every new problem his father just became that much more upset, Not because his oldest son was ill but because he was not working for the betterment of the lives in the community and he considered my husband of no use, since after he acquired the MRSA, He was no longer able to help any one in the community to get their goals met and make him look great. The next vacation was to Athens in 1990 again we returned to his being told he was not taking time off as he wanted but would have to accept our decision of a winter vacation to start on January the 8th. He has ruined so many holiday/birthday/special days. Something was worked out till 2003. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts, creepy pedo posing as an OT/speech therapist. He bitches that he won't be able to walk tomorrow. Until then, I'll just be over here mentally kicking your husband in the nuts. He was definitely angry that I didn't want to do it. On the fifth I was on my knees pleading just wait for the next bid list in two weeks let the four that wanted that new department have it. MOMS ONLY. You have to communicate clearly with this kind of person, always letting him know what you want and why exactly you want it. Communication is key to a close relationship. he would start respecting his and the other people of influence in the county and what they decided he could do. When the person is finished talking, say: Well, my age is not your business, and please dont ask me again.. So, what does it mean when a vacation with your husband is the opposite of the above for you? Think of the least romantic thing youve ever said to your hubby when that happens. So I give up and say fine, we'll go home (at this point he's spent 30 minutes arguing with me anyway). You are a human being and deserve to have this happinesss. He always does or says something that ruins my birthday- it's like he really begrudges it! They may also ask you what gift you would like, making elaborate promises. So as she left I told her in a very quiet but direct way go away and locked the door.I was ready to SCREAM at her but knew that wasnt the right way to deal with her I also wasnt going to let her start a fight ..which is what she wanted me to do. I'd been so looking forward to it. Feel free to pm me. Just try it our way just once, he might like it. What we need to keep in mind with narcissists, however, is that these things may or may not have happened as described and its that they use these stories as a weapon to manipulate others. Due to COVID, we arent planning on any trips anywhere anytime soon, so I told him I was planning on taking a few days off this week. Every single special occasion *I* ruined. I ended up feeling like I could never sit down and relax around him and he apparently thought I just had it made and his life was sooo awful. Does it seem like your wife, girlfriend or ex ruins every holiday and special occasion? Fuck sakes. He would have been on his way an hour latter if his father did not use his friendship with a judge to get my husband ordered into work overriding the union contract. John responded: 'I do have a couple [of sons], but they're both spoken for.' He screamed for crying out loud he had two months he could take off in the two months following the holidays, why did he have to hammer the least seniority to work instead of himself They did not have as much time as he did to take off so he could at least shut up and do as the community wanted, She bounced a heavy glass ashtray off his head yelling he did not owe the community a stinking thing. . A week later his mother said we had a appointment to talk to the unit director where my husband was at. A person like this ruins your vacation by whining, complaining, and being grumpy all the time. There are many ways for your husband to ruin your vacation. Then he gets huffy and storms off to work. Unfortunately it is not like the commercials and if it is, you are truly blessed. He is such a grump its unbelievable. 7. We had to ask the Union Chaplain to get us into the plant to talk to my husband the next morning at 230 AM He told us the younger newly wed had been fired since our June return for taking the vacation that was authorized to my husband for three months, He was not forgiving any one I was crying when he came in the break area and he just threw the house keys at me told me not to say a thing he could care less. A parent's conspicuous and continual assessment of a son's or daughter's spouse can form the bedrock of conflict between in-laws. Im also better at managing my time so he would get so annoyed if something took him longer than me. Im starting to get less patient.I have been a very good friend to her over the years but this latest episode wasnt necessaryespecially with what we have all been through with the Pandemic. Sometimes the opposite of #4 will happen when it comes to gifts. Web4. His mother sister and I decided besides the 1300 Euro clock we bought for his Christmas birthday gift we had better have a vacation he would like already in the works. I agree with Windy. Because of scheduling clashes over summer, I ended up taking my daughter away for a short beach break without husband, and in spite of being cold and windy and having to ride 6km with kiddo in a trailer with a brutal North Sea headwind to get anywhere, and the food in the hostel being appalling, we had a blast because I can have a sense of humour about these things, and it's not about me, it's about the kid, who was having fun. Holiday events give narcissists excuses to stay late at work for holiday parties or spend time with friends outside of regular routines. His mother had nearly killed his father with a heavy glass ashtray about getting his good old boys to just jail my husband Telling her he did not care when his last day off was or what the stinking contract said he could have off. Hs fathers friend the judge was under investigation as to what other bribes he had taken and if he had used the evidence locker to support his drug habit for decades since he had signed out of evidence in cocaine and had it in his blood. Move on and find someone else. He should believe that and be happy for you. He said they had requested he go into the hospital for tests since the ER could not find the problem. We do usually take a trip together or with the family every year. This is the precursor or the excuse to the other things they might do during the holidaysif they are mistreating you during this time, they can blame it on the fact that they have bad holiday memories. 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